Monday, August 18, 2014

My Ice Bucket Challenge (I chose to donate) and Defending the Water Dumpers.

Image via NYT

I have defriended two people on facebook today. People ranting that the ice water bucket challenge is useless and stupid and a waste of water.

You know what? You people are assholes. Not one to point fingers but Breast Cancer gets an ENTIRE month on NFL. Pink gloves, pink shoes...etc. Do you same people complain about all the pink? Brilliant marketing for breast cancer awareness and kudos to Susan G. Komen for creating one of the best funded fights in the medical field.

But there are others of us (like ALS, Alzheimer's, and Autism) that don't have that level of recognition yet. So if a silly viral idea of dumping ice water on our heads sparks some attention what is the big damn deal? Wasting water? Please. We have had a nice wet summer in the south and I've skipped a few showers so that can probably cover South Charlotte.  I haven't even had to dump water on my hydrangeas like I normally do so give up the argument about water. It is ONE bucket.

Annoying? Perhaps to some.....I mean my entire feed is ice bucket challenges. But you know what? It is also full of first day of school pics, newborn babies, wedding montages, vacation snaps.etc.... which I LOVE. Post away people. It is called social media for a reason and I'm so tired of people making fun of everyone else on there. Yes, I am an oversharer. Hide me, unfriend me. But don't you dare publicly shame me or make me feel bad about myself for SHARING on social media. (I could dedicate a whole post to this)

I partially understand the argument of feeling publicly shamed to post a video. PARTIALLY. But without the video this wouldn't have been so viral. Do you want to watch me post a video of me donating? And would ANY of these people have donated had there not been a fun silly video to record? NOPE. It would have been glossed over. I was going to record this whole post in video form but nobody would have finished watching without the ice bucket. The photo I posted of my Mother wearing a funny shirt referencing Alzheimer's has received 212 likes. Of those 212 people I think 7 have donated. You have to get people to actually do something to hold them accountable. It is the sad truth of charity.

My point is that this "silly obnoxious" gimmick has raised millions for ALS. (New York Times Article HERE). 13.3 million has been raised since this began compared to their normal 1.7 they normally receive. That is AMAZING. My main annoyance is I didn't think of it first and now will be racking my brain to think of a way to do this for Alzheimer's.

Snipped from NYT article:
Pete Frates can no longer speak. But in the last two and a half weeks, a
video posted on Facebook by Mr. Frates, a 29-year-old former college
baseball player, has inspired people like Bill Gates, LeBron James, Chris
Christie and Taylor Swift to dump a bucket of ice on their heads and speak
out for his cause.
The “Ice Bucket Challenge” has lit social media on fire, raising both
money and awareness for amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, commonly known
as Lou Gehrig’s disease. About 30,000 Americans now have the disease,
which attacks nerve cells and ultimately leads to total paralysis, though the
mind remains sharp. Life expectancy is typically two to five years from the
time of diagnosis.
The stunt goes like this: People make a video of themselves dumping a
bucket of ice water on their heads, post it on Facebook, Instagram or other
social media sites, and then challenge friends to do the same within 24
hours or donate $100 to ALS. (Many do both.)
People have shared more than 1.2 million videos on Facebook between
June 1 and Aug. 13 and mentioned the phenomenon more than 2.2 million
times on Twitter since July 29, according to those sites. Donations to the
ALS Association have spiked. As of Sunday, the association said it had
received $13.3 million in donations since July 29, compared with $1.7
million during the same period last year. I

So today my family will be donating to ALS and ALZ. My husband's family lost his uncle to ALS in 2011 so we will be making a donation to the Steve Gleason foundation (Team Gleason) in Victor Gasser's name.

I will also be donating to the Alzheimer's Association today. Alzheimer's Disease, and the fact that it also has no cure, is my main charity and something that is obviously close to my heart as my Mom was diagnosed in 2011. For a moment think about this:

Steve Gleason has a beautiful and brilliant mind trapped inside a body that is failing him. On the other hand my Mother has a failing mind trapped inside a perfectly capable body. Two horrible diseases, two wonderful loving people, and no cure or prevention for either. Both FATAL.

So leave the ice bucket dumpers alone. Go donate today. Be nice. Stop hating and shaming people.


Thursday, August 14, 2014

Second Pregnancies are HARD

There I said it. I'm waving the white flag. Somebody bring me Jim Beam.

1. This pregnancy is hard in general. 
(Last Wednesday at the Doc)

I'm having pretty bad back pain and I thought it could be from my fall at the beach (long story) but maybe it's just because I have a big ole belly and diastasis recti from my first pregnancy. I went in to get checked and all is fine on that front but I literally limp b/c my left upper buttocks/lower back hurts SO bad. I'm also over three years older, weighed about 7 pounds more at conception, and am more worn down by life than I was in my magical happy pregnancy phase in 2010. 

2. I have a FUCKING Kidney Stone. 
Just found that out yesterday. I knew it was there from my ICU trip but didn't realize how much it had grown. My Urologist wants to monitor it and I have to come in if I'm having any "back pain". Well I feel like I'm in permanent Braxton Hicks most of the time so this will be difficult to assess. It is in my left kidney and in the bottom which is apparently good news. But we have to get x-rays and probably remove it right after baby girl is born. (Backstory: I've been to the ICU with 2 kidney infections and both times escalated to Sepsis. Also had a kidney stone when I was 8 that shutdown both kidneys.) So this is bad news and for a worrier off her zoloft this is horrible news. Good news? I've already hit my deductible. Take that insurance company. What else can I get done before New Years Eve?

3. I don't want to even look at vegetables. 
I have a whole post typed up about my issues with eating healthy and nutrition but the short story is I just don't love vegetables. I know this is my last pregnancy and I should just enjoy the last few weeks of not calorie counting but I am blowing up pretty quickly. The Instagram and facebook comments absolutely make my day but my arms and legs are getting pretty big and I can see it in my face this time which is different than with my son. Maybe it's a girl thing? If I have gestational diabetes I am going to be in a world of hurt for the last few months. Say a little prayer on Monday that I pass that damn test. Please. I beg you. I CANNOT EAT KALE. It is also hard when there are bloggers out there who say they lost their baby weight in 5 weeks or post their actual weight gain. I know it is my own fault and I applaud those other women for eating healthy and running marathons pregnant but I just can't. 30 minutes on the treadmill at 3.0 is a struggle for my lower ligament pain and with his new back pain I think I have to throw in the towel on exercise. Don't suggest Yoga unless you are also mailing me a DVD.

4. My son is not listening.
This deserves a post of its own. I am doing everything I can to not resort to spanking but sometimes he just doesn't listen. He has also started repeating what he wants until I cave so I end up sending him to timeout and then the cycle starts over. And did your kids become SUPER clingy. We haven't had meltdowns at daycare dropoff in a long long time and this week we have had one every single day. Is that a pregnancy thing too? 

5. I have a son this time.
My belly taking up the whole chair

I have a dining room full of his clothes to prep for consignment sales and looking at all his little outfits makes me so so sad. I hope I snap out of this funk when baby girl arrives but I just miss my little boy being so small and tiny (and innocent). I feel horrible that we will be kicking him out of his crib in the next few weeks. I am trying to make his big boy room exciting and fun but what is going on in his head when I tell him he is getting kicked out of his room? I can't even rock him at night. Our routine is to read books and then rock and sing before bed. I literally cannot hold him in my lap comfortably to accomplish this. I'm still picking him up but I really should stop as it kills my back but I don't want to. Bathing is hard, putting in the car seat is hard. I'm sure you all understand what I mean. I don't want these last few months of him and I to be so HARD but they are. I want to run around and fall in the grass and giggle and jump off the diving board with him and instead I feel like a bitchy bump on a log.

I guess my main point is your first pregnancy is so exciting. Your are planning your dream nursery, registering for gifts, laughing at things like nipple cream (how silly...why would I need that? (insert naive little stupid laughs) and you are just amazed at the wonderment of creating a new life. You have beautiful luscious hair, an adoring husband, ecstatic family members and a glow that radiates around you like a Care Bear stare of intoxicated happiness. 

Fast forward (at least for me) 3.5 years and you already know what will happen to those nipples. KNIVES. KNIVES coming out of your nipples while trying to breastfeed. You already know about the first 4 months of hell. Everyone (husband included) figures that "Oh, she's got this" and doesn't bend over backwards like they did during the first. And you have to balance all this knowledge while chasing a very stubborn and wild 3 year old.  How will we do mornings? How will we handle that 5pm-8pm stretch? Is my newborn going to live in a swing? Will she look like Salma Hayek? Will I ever be able to buy an Elizabeth McKay blouse again while paying for 2 in daycare (and 1 child support check)?

And last of all.

CMC MAIN DOESN'T TAKE THE BABY BACK TO THE NURSERY TO LET YOU SLEEP ANYMORE???? WHAT THE FUCKING SHIT CMC  MAIN!!! I better see a MUCH cheaper hospital bill this time then you slackers! I don't have grandmas to come and hold the baby!

Hormonal and Huge 

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Pawleys Island Shops and Restaurants

I'm in Panicked-Pregnant-Packing mode around here and thought I would give a shout out to my favorite spots at Pawleys Island that make our trip so much easier! You can read my Pawleys write up from 2010 here.
**I wrote this post to be published while I was on vacation. That was a MONTH ago. I've added a few updates. Life. sheesh!

Pawleys Island Realty
88 North Causeway Road
We have always rented through Pawleys Island Realty. They are the best and have tons of great houses to choose from. The home we rent is owned by an Asheville family so we now go through them but I have rented two other properties for bachelorette parties and each time the houses were incredible. I'm sure the location and plethora of gorgeous homes to choose from doesn't hurt.

Murrels Inlet
We did this for the first time last year and LOVED it. Captain Dave is fantastic and we have already booked our cruise for this year. Tell him the Boylan-Fuchs group sent you if you go! He asks your music preference and takes you on a 2 or 3 hour sunset cruise around Murrels Inlet. You BYOB and this year we are bringing Hog Heaven with us.

Pelican Inn family dining
506 Myrtle Avenue

*No longer available! I am so sad about this. Still a beautiful Inn and can be rented in the off-season. Talk about a great idea for a New Year's Eve party!

Frank's and Frank's Outback
10434 Ocean Highway

This is our absolute favorite spot in Pawleys for dinner. We have gone on our last night of the trip every year for 20+ years. We used to eat inside but once they made outside so appealing we changed our reservations to the Outback. Everything on the menu is incredible.

TRUST me. My two favorites are the soft shell crabs and the Caramel Cake.

I WILL be eating that cake in approximately 2 weeks from tomorrow night.

And I'm not sharing!
**Update, I didn't share. I got my own and the rest of the table had to order their own. TRUE STORY.

Chive Blossom
85 North Causeway
Okay, after Franks this is our favorite spot. Their lunch is is tops!!! Not much seating so be prepared to wait. I'll hopefully be eating the Lump Crab Quiche or Okra Pancakes this time on Monday. (**Due to a late night we missed lunch) The rest of the family orders the Fried Green Tomato sandwich with pimento cheese, avocado and bacon. Wipe your chin.

10880 Ocean Highway (In the Hammock Shops)
Was Louis's, High Hammock and something else before becoming Nosh. This is the central restaurant in the Hammock Shops and was always our arrival day lunch spot (Until Chive Blossom). Great covered deck with TV's and a huge playground is being built in the courtyard area next door. (Handy if you have wiggle worms at lunch)

Order the Orange Crush with a Fried Flounder Po Boy.

Bistro 217
10707 Ocean Highway

Before we found Chive Blossom we ventured away from our Nosh spot and tried Bistro 217. Our arrival day changing with our new rental agreement also changes up the restaurants that are open. If we went out to eat more this place would become a regular haunt. We had a killer lunch here a few years ago! Order the burger written up in Southern Living.

Hog Heaven BBQ
7147 Ocean Hwy

I refer to this place as Little Pigs of Pawleys. We hit them up to give my Dad a break in the kitchen. Fantastic hush puppies and great BBQ. They also have steamed and fried seafood and ribs.

10880 Ocean Hwy (In Hammock Shops)

I just found this article while looking up links for this post. Milkshakes you can add bourbon to and biscuits the size of my head? Yes please. Will report back.
**We loved our meal at Bisqit. The only thing I will say is eating a burger with a biscuit as a bun is tricky! Definitely a stop to make though if you need a kid friendly spot for lunch while shopping.

Pawleys Island Outdoors
9790 Ocean Hwy

In year's past we have been lucky enough to borrow a boat from friends but on the off times that doesn't work we usually rent a Jon boat from PI Boat Supply. They are great guys to work with and we have no complaints. The boat seems like an unnecessary item but the kids love it and my dad will never give up his cocktail cruises. That man loves the water.

Surf the Earth
47 Da Gullah Way

Back in the day before kids we would rent Kayaks from here to use in the creek. Now my brother and sister-in-law rent extra paddle boards from them. They also offer surfing lessons, paddle board instruction, surfing camps...etc. Great shop!

Lowe's Foods
9160 Ocean Hwy

The Pig is gone! And Food Lion is GROSS. So we weren't sure what to expect from the new Lowe's Grocery Store on the South Causeway but it is fantastic! I'm sure they are in customer service hyper drive but they have everything you need and smiling faces to go along with it. You MUST try the salt and vinegar wings. I don't like salt and vinegar chips but these wings are so good to take home for an appetizer! Also there is a Dollar Tree in the same shopping center that is brand spanking new if you need any cheap toys.

Our Asheville friends that head down before us tipped us off on this place and although you can buy a tent cheaper for that it sounds like a DEAL. You want to know how I met Pawleys Island Posh? I broke her beach tent. TRUE STORY. She had one we could borrow and we set it all up, went up to the house for beer and came back down and it was doing somersaults down the beach. $150 and no tent later we gave up. The following year we bought one from Sams and same problem. We get a pretty hefty breeze on the front and most tents end up bending which then ruins the whole structural integrity.
Split between 3 families this might be a definite next summer when I have a 6 month old.

Look at all these other services they offer!

Seaside Lunch Delivery ($10.00 per lunch)
Have your personal Cabana Boy deliver a gourmet lunch to you while you're working on that sought after South Carolina tan. Lunch will be delivered to your Cabana Boy tent at a pre-arranged time. Lunch includes gourmet sandwich of your choice, chips and Cabana Broad's signature coconut macaroons. Please order 24 orders in advance from your Cabana Boy or call (843) 742-1134.

Beach Chair Rental ($35.00 per chair per week)
Add chairs to your Cabana Boy Tent Rental for an even easier trip to the beach. Call (843) 742-1134 for details or
Cooler delivery ($50.00 per week)
Add a cooler to your Cabana Boy tent rental. Get a cooler with ice set up under your tent every morning. Cooler holds up to 12 cans of beverages. Call (843) 742-1134 for details or email

**You cannot leave tents up overnight at the beach because it affects the Sea Turtles. 

Penguin Ice
I'm usually the first up at the house with my crazy kid so we walk on the beach, drive over to the Starbucks in Litchfield and then hit this up. He loves to watch the ice shoot out and that way by the time everyone else is awake the drinks on the deck are iced down.(We have a 3 cooler system on the back deck due to Fridge space. Beer, Kids drinks + water, Soft drinks and more beer.) I don't have an exact location but this is right by the car wash near the South Causeway.

Kudzu Bakery
221 Willbrook Ave
Aside from their seemingly late hours for a bakery we are HUGE fans of Kudzu. Hidden near the Litchfield Piggly (What WAS the Pig) they have the best breads, pastries and cakes! Open 9-6 M-F. Close at 2 on Saturdays. Must buys: Cheddar Cheese Biscuits and Cinnamon Buns!

Hammock Shops
10880 Ocean Hwy

We don't leave the beach very often but when we do we go spend a day here. My favorites are the Mercantile Shop, Original Hammock Shop, Mermaid Store, Harbor Specialties and Carolina Gourmet.

You MUST get Tiger Butter Fudge from the Original Hammock Shop. Trust. me.

The silhouette guy is also there most days. Gotta get my little guy done again. Not sure I can talk my 12 year old stepson into it. I need to find his from when he was little!

Millie's Boutique
11378 Ocean Hwy (Across from the Fresh Market)

My sister in law found this store last year and they have gorgeous clothes! Tibi, Milly, Gigi NY, Tory Burch, Shoshana..etc. Last year I was lucky enough to squeeze a trip over there and find a dress for a Wedding we were going to a few weeks later. Stop in! (I should have bought the Julie Brown dress above that was 75% off. Perfect for fall with a long cardigan and boots!) or this Julie Brown Top also on sale.

Seaside Cottage Gift Shop 
(Same shopping center as Millie's Boutique. Lots of great stores in there!)
11326 Ocean Highway

My $25 score for little girl's room. Or Ford's room. Or my office where it has been hanging out.
I went nuts in this store this year so it is a last minute update. I bought a Pelican Inn print for my son's room to remind him of our walks together and a surprise print for my friend in Atlanta.

I also got this cute bracelet ($15), some earrings, the painting above and a sweater on sale for this fall. Wonderful shop!

Produce Stand

This is near the North Causeway and our spot to load up on silver queen, tomatoes, name it they have it. And sometimes you can grab fresh shrimp right on the North Causeway if the guy in the pickup truck is there. He was selling huge shrimp for $4/pound!

Brookgreen Gardens
1931 Brookgreen Drive, Murrells Inlet
I have never been but our buddies went by this year and loved it! They have live music on Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays and a train for the kids to ride!
Come for dinner and stay for evening boat rides, live entertainment, and ‘just for kids’ activities when the gardens stay open until 9 p.m. The Pavilion Restaurant is open until 7:30 p.m. on Wednesdays and Fridays and the Courtyard CafĂ© is open on Thursday evenings. Wednesday and Friday performances begin at 7 p.m. All performances are included in garden admission and free to members. Guests are encouraged to bring lawn chairs and blankets to Wednesday and Friday performances. No outside alcoholic beverages are permitted, and picnics must only be enjoyed at the Picnic Area near Jessamine Pond. The Lowcountry Trail and Zoo close at 7 p.m.

Any spots you know about that I don't have listed? Please comment away or email me!

Friday, August 1, 2014

Friday Hodge Podge

(Obviously doesn't apply to me right now but loved it)

I haven't done a Hodge Podge post since June but since I have a few things I want to discuss I figured it was time!

1. Thank GOODNESS for this cooler weather! 

Our first tease was July 4th weekend up in Asheville where it dipped to 53 that Friday morning. I know most will disagree but I LOVE cooler weather. I despise being hot. The only time it is really acceptable to be hot is on a beach, in a bikini, with a buzz. (Or pool/lake/river...etc) My favorite temperature is probably in the 60's. Maybe even in the 50's. I can't imagine this cool spell lasting too long though but it is a wonderful tease for Fall.

2. Speaking of Fall
Boden Dresses from Last Fall (the one on the right became a favorite!)

One of my good friends who is also due in Oct/Nov is planning on being back in her skinny cords by Christmas. She can do this because she stays tiny in pregnancy and has gorgeous long lean legs and doesn't pack on the pounds like I do in pregnancy. Don't hate her though...she gets really sick most of the first two trimesters so I think she has earned it. I on the other hand won't be back in skinny cords until probably next Fall so I'm not really shopping for Fall clothes. I've been told tunics and leggings will be my uniform. Is there a good brand of leggings that dresses and sweaters don't stick to? I've heard some people say they just wear black workout pants under their dresses! But all that said this dress is calling my name. 

Sooo gorgeous. I had never owned Boden until last year when Chassity posted the navy dress above and I wore the heck out of it. (Thank you Chassity!) I typically don't order things I see on blogs (I'm not very stylish) but this dress caught my eye and it probably became my favorite piece in my closet. I ordered a size up but got a petite if that helps with sizing. In the beautiful dress above I might have to go two sizes up? It's a bit out of my price range as far as a casual dress but I would pair with riding boots and I imagine wear it tons. 

3. Trunk Shows!

My friend Abby is hosting a Shrimp and Grits Trunk Show at her home this Saturday! Contact me if you want the information. Ford is out of smocking (husband's request) so he at least can wear these holiday shirts...right? I'm trying to hold back on shopping for baby girl for the holidays until she is here. Ford was so small we had to run out and buy preemie onesies because all the 0-3 month sizes swallowed him.

4. And I just lied.

I did order this outfit from Old Navy and maybe this dress from Gap. Everything was 40% off!! And I got this top for nursing this fall. Fingers crossed that goes better than it did the first time. Breastfeeding story here.

5. Misty Copeland

I wonder if this little girl then

knew she would be one of the leading faces of Under Armour's "I Will What I Want" Campaign today:

Go Misty!